Is that me complaining?
Have you ever been in a conversation with someone who seems to dwell on the last worst thing that happened? If you have and, like me, are trying to figure a way out of the conversation, it can be a challenge! I was visiting with a couple of good friends this past weekend and decided we were at a point in our lives where we need to keep each other in check. It’s that time in life when you realize your body can have issues – you know, the kind your aunt and grandma used to talk about at the Thanksgiving table? Yeah, those kind. And, what we decided was that if any of us start our conversations with the outcome of a recent doctor appointment or an upcoming appointment or the sharing the best pain cream, we found that it is OK to tell the other person “next topic please.” Seriously though, the talk of kidney stones, pulled muscles, and shoulder or back pain could consume the short time we get to see each other. Ha! However, it is quite evident to me why women talk to other women about their medical issues – it’s because they listen.
As women and moms, we are used to taking care of everyone else and suddenly someone is listening to you and saying they understand and wonder if they can help in any way – what? Whoa! What 50+hours-a-work-week-working-mom doesn’t want someone to just listen. My fear is to be talking about my medical issues someday at my camper while wearing glitter leggings and having a fruity drink with an umbrella. I ask my friends to keep watch in case my necklace matches my earrings, matches my belt, matches my purse, matches my leggings and they are bedazzled with glitter or crystals and I have found the same shade of lipstick to match. Either drop me off in Vegas or perform an intervention and buy me something khaki and, tell me to quit complaining about my medical issues and the medications for them – but let me have the fruity drink.
So, if you are the age like me and your husband says your latest pair of leggings look like the carpet at Treasure Island Casino, find a friend to keep an eye on you. Have them watch for constant complaining or more than two sparkly items in your daily attire. My best unsolicited advice? Remember that everyone has something going on in their life and try to be an asker not a teller. Be the friend that drops off a card and plant or chocolate when your bestie isn’t feeling well, and stick with those friends that ask about you – but limit your aches and pains stories to one a week (smile).
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