To the Editor,
Seasons of great celebrations often carry shadows of sadness, grief, and deep hurt. Many of us have the brightness of the holidays dimmed by loss and the memories of times shared with loved ones.
It can be helpful to actively reflect on these people and experiences to acknowledge the feelings which are surfacing in our lives. Writing down or verbally sharing our memories can lighten our sadness and bring a new peace.
There is a healing balm in sharing our thoughts with others. Sometimes hurts or oversights which are deeply fixed in our minds and hearts are unknown to others. Sharing the root of these past hurts, in a gentle and rational way, can enlighten others, changing the present.
Speaking the names of loved ones will keep their memory alive and bring to mind our joy at having been able to experience life with them.
Also, being gentle with those we encounter can be a great kindness. We never know what sound or smell or sight is triggering memories for others, so being mindful of those in stores or work or social gatherings can bring such grace.
This year, I am missing several beloved people and tears flow often as I move through these days of the Christmas Season. I appreciate those who notice and listen and comment, even sharing their sentiments that they are missing the presence of family and friends or even the way things used to be.
May our Christmas Season be filled with treasured memories!
SimplyMary – Mary Whalen
Spring Valley, Minn.