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Working Mom


By Tammy Danielson

Fri, Jul 20th, 2012
Posted in All Columnists

Are you an ASKER or a TELLER?

When watching the evening news recently, the top story topics included murder, robbery, public divorce, and the poor economy. At the very end of the broadcast, the news anchor shared a brief human interest story to “make your day.” Was that one happy story enough to balance the sadness and despair represented by the rest of the entire broadcast? Nope.

Listening to that hour of news made me think of how often we are on the other end of a phone call, text message, or email from someone who is sharing bad news and letting us know who was involved and how bad the situation is. Odds are we receive more of those types of messages and fewer calls celebrating great things going on in someone’s life…after all, what Minnesota Nice person is going to call their friends and “brag” about the wonderful things happening for them?

We are taught from a young age to be modest and considerate of those less fortunate than us so, in my opinion, it is like a tug-o-war to pull good news out of some people. Have you ever complimented someone and when they say Thank You the next words are a “but” statement? Like when I complimented an acquaintance on how nice her outfit looked and her reply was, “Thanks, I don’t even like this blouse BUT I didn’t have anything else clean.”

Give compliments, accept compliments graciously, and then give another compliment! The spirit of giving is not all about materialistic gifts, and some of our best giving gestures can be in the form of how we make conversation. Are you an ASKER or a TELLER? Do you ASK questions about the other person and how their week has been or do TELL them all about your week as soon as you start to talk? Not sure?---then you just might be a TELLER. If you are an ASKER then you are probably also a good listener and a good friend.

So, here’s a 1-week challenge: 1) Add a compliment in your conversations and see how the other person reacts. If you are not comfortable doing this or don’t know where to start, simply add the phrase, “It is so good to see you!” at the beginning of your conversation, and 2) start with the positive. It will get easier with practice. Who knows…it could be your conversation that makes someone’s day.





Three Layer Delicious Dessert



I came across this little gem when sifting through my grandma’s recipe box to put together a cookbook for an upcoming reunion.



1. Mix the following ingredients like pie crust and spread in a

9 x 13 greased pan. Bake 15 minutes at 375 degrees.

•½ C. Butter

•1 C. Flour

•½ C. Pecans

2. Blend the next three ingredients well and spread on the crust when it cools:

•1-8 oz package cream cheese

•1 C. Powdered sugar

•1 C. Cool Whip

3. The final layer is the following ingredients mixed well until thick and spread on top of second layer:

•2 small boxes any instant pudding mix (chocolate, coconut cream, pistachio are good)

•2 ½ C. cold milk

Top with more Cool Whip and sprinkle with coconut or finely chopped nuts if you wish. Let set overnight or for several hours.

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